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Pain, Anguish, Despair and at the verge of Bereavement

I have been giving it a thought for quite some time but never mustered the courage to go on with it on the blog. Well now I do.

We just heard that our best friend is going through the last phases of his life. It's Skin cancer. And it has intruded the internal organs now. I have been very afraid, not being able to confront the news. And yesterday we heard it that he may not even have a month to live. The pain is gut wrenching. Since yesterday I'm going every evening to him. He's under a heavy dose of Morphine as the pain is getting unbearable.

We've sat together, drank beer, had loads of fun. And now we are preparing to bid farewell. I had expected it to get better. The guy was a strong lad! He was fighting it and ....

Today I held his hand and talked with him. I just think that it's unfair. The guy is 37! And we're so helpless against diseases like Cancer,HIV and more.

It's an indescribable pain which just won't go and will stay when that dreadful void will be created.


  1. Hi Tarry,

    I've just seen this.

    It's heart-breaking to see someone you love being destroyed by disease. (been there)

    I hurt for you - DaPi

  2. Thanks David,

    You've been there then so I don't need to describe all the things that go in your mind watching someone go down like that.

    You ask questions to yourself all the times.

    I hurt for you
    This already helps understand and accept the reality of life and death a bit. Those are very special words. Thanks again.

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